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Scars by Bullying was created for every scream for help that was never heard, every tear caused by harmful actions, and every soul who feels alone with what they are dealing with.

Bullying is more then skin-deep; it affects you for life. It's been proven that victims of bullying are prone to having PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.) The constant fighting and harassment of peers damages confidence and self-esteem for years or even a lifetime.

We feel that not enough people know this; they are unaware of how much damage it causes to our youth, thus causing more damage to our society.

We are tired of hearing about young adults committing suicide because no one ever stopped the abuse that was witnessed everyday. Those people could have been saved.

So this group is for all of you who have ever been harassed daily, considered suicide as an alternative, or felt as if you were truly alone.

If you are, or know anyone who is, being bullied emotionally, physically, or mentally - contact this group for support. Support Starts Here.
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This is probably going to be pretty basic, considering we're an anti-bullying group, and so everything I'll say will be basically redundant in itself...But oh well, I'll post them anyways.

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:bulletgreen:Submit deviations to the correct folder. We admin are lazy; therefore, we do not want to waste all of our time putting deviations in the correct folder simply because other people are lazy. Manage yourselves effectively and we won't have a problem.
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Hello everyone!

I hope you're all having a good easter holiday (or spring break), and enjoying time off from school/college/work :)

I've shared a few personal stories on here before (I'm going to try and delete some of them since they're written terribly and have embarrassing spelling and grammar mistakes), and since it's been some time since my last one, I'm here to share another.

This story happened after I left school, and during my second year of college.


Nearly four years ago (September 2011), I enroled in a Creative Media course in college, and would be studying in a whole new place with a class of people I didn't know. I was nervous about starting, since I wouldn't know anyone there, and due to very low confidence, I didn't really think I'd make any friends.

However, on our introduction day, I met a girl who I really got along with (let's call her K), and she became my first friend in college. I had made two other friends from my class too, but since that day, we were always together, and got closer as the year went on.

During the first few weeks I met K, she had a boyfriend. I didn't know much about this guy, and never met him properly. However, later on, K broke up with him (I can't exactly remember why) and within a few more weeks, she got with another guy, who I will call B.

I first met B during a meet up with K, two of her friends and my ex. He seemed really easy to get along with, and was a really nice guy. I thought he was a great boyfriend for K, as he was funny, friendly and cared a lot for her. He even came to my 17th birthday party. He was a good guy, and it was nice to see a good friend of mine happy.


But all of that changed when we reached second year. He remained the same throughout first year, but when second year hit a year later, he started to change...

K was beginning to complain about him a lot. They had minor issues before (as relationships do), but these were quickly resolved. But K was getting more and more trouble with him. I'd listen to her, but obviously didn't want to say anything that would involve me with their problems, so I was just a friend for her to talk to.

However, my own personal problems with B arised when he would comment "Freak" on a selfie of me and K. I thought at first it was a joke and that he was just teasing, but he kept commenting that on every picture we took, and then K eventually told me that "B thinks you're a freak"

I was hurt a lot by that. I thought we were friends, so why did he suddenly think that? I overthinked a lot about it, going through the times I had met him with K. Did I say or do something that upset him? I kept thinking about it over and over, but couldn't think of anything that would have upset him or make him mad at me.

It got worse later on, as he was beginning to treat K poorly in their relationship. K would tell me endless arguments they had, as well as the names he called her. He had even hit her sometimes, and she'd show me the bruises. I just wanted to scream at her "BREAK UP WITH HIM! HE ONLY HURTS YOU!" I had tried saying that he isn't worth it, and that he's not a good person, but her response was always "But I love him".

B even said he didn't want K to talk to me anymore. In fact, he wrote her a whole list of friends he didn't want her talking to. His excuse was the same: "I don't want you around her. She's a freak!" Luckily, K didn't listen to him, and we continued to hang around during college. However, I could tell that all of this was putting a strain on her, as she was continually getting upset during classes and the stress of work on top of that was hitting her harder. I so desperately wanted B to go, and most of her other friends agreed that he's a horrible person. One friend in particular (call him M) really liked her. He was a lot nicer than B, and would tell her over and over again how he felt about her and why B wasn't right for her. It was sad, because he was such a nice guy, yet he was the one getting friendzoned, whilst the one who called her names, controlled her and bullied her friend was getting all her love.

I was hurt by how these horrible things were being said behind my back, especially how I was finally enjoying my life bully-free after my experiences in school. K practically begged me not to say anything to him, so I didn't. I wished I did though, and had put my foot down more and told her how much it hurt me. Even if she didn't want me to, and it would put a strain on our friendship, I should have told him to stop calling me names, even if I got a ton of abusive messages on Facebook from him.


Unfortunately, she is still with B now. They broke up for literally a day (I'm sure lots of her friends were overjoyed about that!), but it wasn't long before they got back together. Thankfully, it doesn't look like he's been hurting her as much, and he no longer says anything about me.

I think he's blocked me on Facebook (even though I was the one who removed him as a friend), which is fine by me. I no longer care about him, because I don't need people like him in my life.


So, what did I learn from this experience? Simple. Some people are not how they seem. They may seem friendly, fun and easy to get along with, but once they reveal their true colours, it's like they're a completely different person. I also learned to stand my ground more and not tolerate any kind of rude comments made about me, despite what people may think about it. I was so afraid of losing K as a friend, that I tried to let it slide, but if I experience anything like that again, I'm going to speak out. We all have a voice for a reason.

Thank you all for reading, and have a lovely easter!
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TheRadioactives Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Hello, I'm trying to spread this as much as I can, so if you could feature this please do and if not thank you anyway ;3;
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PsalmSeven Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
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Anyone who is being cyber bullied needs to check this out:

www.amazon.com/Silence-Cyber-B…

It's the only book or resource I know of that teaches you how to legally track down a cyber bully to their physical location, IP address, and Internet service provider so you can report them directly to that provider (or their local police) and make the harassment stop.

Most ant-bullying resources will tell you to just ignore the bully or block him and report his behavior to a website admin. This book encourages that too, but I think we all know there are times when the passive/peaceful approach doesn't work. If you want to take control of the situation, flip the tables and show the bully that you mean business, this book can help. :thumbsup:

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GothicxNightxOwl Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so great, we've had many people approach us having that problem.

Thank you:)
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Anuksut Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you for sharing :)
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Death-Dealer123 Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2014  Student General Artist
fav.me/d72c8v7 i am the founder of end bullying world wide and i was hoping that u could help me by spreading my idea about ending bullying world wide. have a great day 
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Anuksut Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Thank you for sharing!
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Death-Dealer123 Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2014  Student General Artist
Ur welcome. 
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JaredRenoir Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014
Can I join this group?
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Jojo-Izumi Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2014  Student General Artist
Certainly :) No need to ask.
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Guarded-Stallion Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2014  Student General Artist
I was wondering if you could display this in your group? fav.me/d82g5vu
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